|Breakups| |Splits| |Parting| are common heartbreak activities in a relationship. Few survive it, few involuntarily get over it and few keep diving into it, with a hope. However, it is never easy. Following this handbook, you will explore few extra activities that will help you get over with the hard times. Whereas, here are few tips to survive the heartbreaks.
1. Good Support for a Better Life.
After a heartbreak what a person needs is support, however, strong you might be after a breakup, you will surely feel blue or you will turn yourself into a rugged soul at some point in time. Being rugged or feeling weak at the later stage will affect your productivity and networks.
What to do??
For Boys: – Being with people who keeps telling you to forget the person you lost, will only spoil up the situation in a long term. Because you yourself know, it is not that easy. So, be with a person who knows less about your relationship, has many positive and good activities in his /her life, and has an ample amount of things to talk and will involve you in his work. Being with lively people in this stage helps, exploring a new world of your own.
For Girls: – Find a companion, who travels, keeping aside peoples who keep saying ‘Bhool Ja Useh”, rather find people who understand being soft in words rationally. A good companion, be it he/she will always tell you, “Usko jana tha woh chala gaya. Now let yourself go, there is a lot more to do in this world.” Find a mate who makes you laugh. Involves you in several activities and tells you to learn new things.
2. Let Yourself Go
This is the most shattering step. Yes, it is not at all easy to let a loved one go just like that. However, as a fact, separation is a part of our life but it is not our life. There is no way you can let someone go that easily. It takes time and effort both. Then the question strikes…How?
For Boys: – Do not force yourself to forget her, just let the memories simmer in you, she is gone and this is the harsh truth. However, let the memories be there, feel happy that you loved her, and instead of being sad about the fact that she is gone, rather feel proud that you did love truly and honestly. However, do not hold on to her. Rather keep your mind busy all the time and sit back for 45 minutes every day and think about her. Reduce the time by 4 minutes, every week and you will find it easy to move.
For Girls: – If you left him because of his bad habits and you know, he genuinely loved you, then he will surely come back changing himself. Accept him and help him do rest of the change. However, if he cheated on you, then he does not deserve you. In addition, you do not make him lucky thinking about him. Let yourself go, by working on some professional skills, learn a language, learn an instrument, write articles, read books and allow yourself to find a suitable love instead of being stiff.
3. Manage your entertainments: –
Allowing yourself, to get sad with the lines of the sad romantic songs or scenes in romantic movies is suitable for few times but not always. Do not make it a habit.
For Boys:- Equip your music playlists with more instrumentals, listen to club songs and listen to romantic or chill out instrumentals. If listening to songs with lyrics, then sing along with it, do not worry how you sing. Just sing and you will hurt yourself less. Watch more comedy, action movies, and talent reality shows and it will help you divert the blue thoughts.
For Girls: – Go classical! Watching classical oldies and old comedy movies will help you move and will generate creativity in you. Be nominal active on social networks, do not overuse i.e. be active on social networks only 1hr in total in a day. Watch, talent reality shows, lifestyle shows and spend most of the time doing activities, which does not involve any electronic media.
4. Get a Job or Start Something:-
At timeframes like this, we normally spend more time controlling our thoughts and this surely effects your other work, so it is better to get a serious job.
What to do??
For Boys: – Get a job you wanted to do, forget the salary and wish for a happy office atmosphere. Just do the work. If you are already working, find a teaching or a freelancing job of your extreme interest and do it for one hour before ending the day.
For Girls: – Get a job you wanted to do. Forget the salary and wish for a positive and interacting office atmosphere. Just do the work. If you are already working, find a hobby or a freelancing job of your interest and do it for one hour before ending the day. And do remember to create personal goals. Prioritize someone ‘Except your ex’ for whom you want to do the job and fulfill your goals.
5. Love and Reward Yourself:-
Learn to live for yourself at these stages, take care of yourself and reward yourself.
What to give??
For Boys: – Go out and eat your favorite food. Play a sport, Hangout and Make New Friends. And for every happy thing you do, decide to reward yourself with anything you like.
For Girls: – Try something new, go for a solo trip, make new friends or practice a hobby, eat full and well and reward yourself with chocolates or anything you want, each time you learn something new.