A Known Devil is better than an unknown Ghost or Vice-Versa!
“Keep your eyes wide open before marriage, half shut afterward.”
1. In love marriages, your better half is known to you!!
Apparently, in love marriages, you know the person well enough to write a biography of him/her. The person is familiar to you. You know what will make the other laugh or get annoyed.
Arranged Marriage be like have fun exploring. Go ahead Amelia Earhart And Christopher Columbus!!
In an arranged marriage, you need to be a great explorer, for you, the first few years will be full of learning and surprises, you will be knowing each other and at the same time, you will be knowing how to adapt to each other’s situation.
“Marriage lets you annoy one special person for the rest of your life.”
2. You plan your life together in love marriages.
Well, couples in love often plan their married life beforehand. They have strategically laid milestones about their entire life when they had a lot of time dating each other. It is like planning ahead start journey from Kashmir to Kanyakumari but instead you land straight into The Indian Ocean with an Exabyte of speed where there is a lot of alternative plans scattered around. “You can swim and pick a plan if one fails!”
Arranged Marriage is the union of two families. Period.
In an arranged marriage, you have multiple planners deployed, “The Two Families”. They know the best for the couple. You just get an opportunity to modify the plan but not change it. You like it or not. However, “Teamwork is a must.”
“Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold.”
– Zelda Fitzgerald
3. It is your own project, Project ‘Love Marriage’.
You loved him/her it is completely your issue now. You both bungee jumped from the cliff, have fun falling into the ocean of Love now. If the person changes after marriage, it is your fault. You have no one to blame. So ‘Couples’ you better make an after marriage handbook, long before the marriage and read it by heart. It will be the holy book of your marriage with every solution for every problem that might arise and still update…..
Arranged Marriage pushes you towards the direction of Love.
Arranged marriage be like ‘skydiving’ for the first time and surely you will be needing a push. Leave that to both the families. They will do that, and they are least bothered about what you feel because they loves you and you love them back. Moreover, you taught them to make the account on matrimonial sites. Well, Done! But, when you skydive, try to make it like the skydiving scene in Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara – happy, satisfied and content and not like the skydive in Race 2 – diving with an Audi R8. As you see, ‘Dowry’ will make you look like a jackass and marrying a boy for wealth will make you look like a jackass AGAIN! Period.
“Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all the time, made new.”
– Ursula K. Le Guin, The Lathe of Heaven
4, Love marriages be like..Dowry? What dish is that?
If the boy’s side demands dowry in a love marriage, it assures that the girl is surely going to break the head of her boyfriend. Dowry is an unutterable word in love marriage.
Dowry has always been an issue.
In an arranged marriage, Dowry is demanded by most families. It is an idea of some wicked retard member of the family. Well, ladies please do not give dowry to any ‘boy’, because ‘men’, they will never demand or accept dowry. And to the family members of both sides of whose brain chemicals have misguided them, please go through’ The Dowry Prohibition Act of 1961′ and ‘Indian Penal Code 498A’. It will make you think normal or else you can join “Khatron ki Khiladi” instead of give and take dowry.
“Love may be blind, but marriage is a real eye-opener.”
5. In love marriage, you marry with expectations in mind!
The Project ‘Married Life’ has a lot of plans and promises added into the rulebook. You have expectations from both sides and trust plays the role of the expectations. With the intensity and reaction of trust, sometimes it is a happy married life and sometimes it is an Inter-Home Debate Competition with no rules.
In arranged marriage, you marry with presumptions in mind.
In arranged marriage, you do not have any such expectations, but you do have many assumptions that might be right or wrong towards your married life. You can point yourself for every assumption you scored positive and if luckily, you win, you can make a new pickle with it and share the flavor with everyone.