I am busy, ‘ttyl’! Is it the phrase you get to hear more often from your special one? Yes? Sorry, he should not be your special one then! There is a thin line between keeping your partner happy and accepting their every terms and conditions of love. Take down the signs of conditional love relationships and unconditional love relationships.
Are you Getting these Signs of Conditional Love? Get the Difference With These 9 Facts!
If you want to be blessed by a healthy love life then you should be aware of the two terms- “Unconditional Love” and “Conditional Love”. In fact, understand the difference between the two and know, at which place you are.
1. Are you Getting your Love or *Buying* it?
Signs of Unconditional Love Relationship: You don’t need to gratify your partner to get anything. They are willing to give all their to love you.
Signs of Conditional Love Relationship: Remember you need not to do what they want, anytime and every time. That’s when you have to buy your love.
Signs of Unconditional Love Relationship: It gives requisite space in the relationship. Restrictions are not the parameters to judge your loyalty. It comes out of love and affection.
Signs of Conditional Love Relationship: “Why are you Coming so late? “Why were you not picking my call? Am calling you since 5:00 pm and it’s 5:04 now!. When your partner starts questioning you and interferes with your individuality, their love is conditional. Time to Leave!
3. Is it all About the Looks Every time?
Signs of Unconditional Love Relationship: Here, your partner would not care how are you looking. Hearing- “You look so beautiful darling” while wearing your evening pajamas is all that unconditional love is!
Signs of Conditional Love Relationship: If he comments everytime more than complimenting you, that’s a sign! “Oh God! the eye-liner is not properly winged, is this the way to come out?”. If these are the things you hear every time you are with him, better just leave!
4. Give and Take or *Tit for Tat*!
Signs of Unconditional Love Relationship: It is a give and takes process, you give each other love and respect and take the same. You give your time and attention and you get love. It’s a harmonious process.
Signs of Conditional Love Relationship: “I said it because you said something similar that day”– got to hear this or anything similar to this? You got your answer now! If they give you back everything you do for their welfare assuming that you insulted them, there’s a sign!
5. We vs I
Signs of Unconditional Love Relationship: If you people are one entity with your own identities you are going great. In a relationship, two people are meant to become “we” when it comes to having happy moments and taking life’s decisions.
Signs of Conditional Love Relationship: Are you the only one adjusting your schedule to meet them or talk to them? Are you the only one thinking what could hurt them? Then it’s just you who is carrying your so called relationship.
6. Priority Level: Love or Money!
Signs of Unconditional Love Relationship: Going on lavish dinner dates, expensive shopping together is great. But, it can be said as an unconditional relationship if it’s as great when you are lying under the starry sky in the night and talking about life.
Signs of Conditional Love Relationship: As stated above, going on expensive shopping and dinner dates is great, but going only on such dates gives you a relationship with terms and conditions of love. And, where there are terms, there is no love.
7. Love or FWB?
Signs of Unconditional Love Relationship: Sex should be an integral part of the relationship to enhance the intensity. And, if he reminds you how beautiful you are every time, rather than just inside the room, he is your man!
Signs of Conditional Love Relationship: Being zealous while sex is amazing, right? Your partner putting all the passion in making love. But, being zealous ONLY while having sex? YOU NEED TO THINK. Do they take as much interest in you otherwise?
8. Do you Share Just the Happy Moments?
Signs of Unconditional Love Relationship: Feeling blessed to share moments together, whether dark or bright is what we call a happy relationship. If your partner is more willing to share your blues than you are going great.
Signs of Conditional Love Relationship: “Don’t stress me with your depressing stuff, talk to me when you feel okay.” Don’t take it!